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Healing Culture
If you scroll Instagram, TikTok (and particularly if you’re a millennial woman!) and even read the “news”, you’ll see endless posts telling you:
“It’s all about your inner beliefs.”
“Transform your mindset and you’ll thrive.”
“Do the “work” and everything else will fall into place.”
It’s appealing, of course. Who wouldn’t want to believe that if you crack your limiting beliefs, your life suddenly opens up and transforms?
And to some extent working on core beliefs are really important and can make a real difference but I find a lot of social media content oversimplifies humans and the world we live in too. It risks leaving people ashamed or stuck, because it implies if you’re not thriving, it’s because you haven’t healed enough (fyi: this is a tactic cults use).
What the research actually shows
Beliefs matter but they’re shaped by context, power, and experience. They don’t shift overnight either.
Trauma leaves real and lasting imprints on our nervous system. Processing and working through trauma isn’t a single or linear process, it’s layered, ongoing, and sometimes incomplete.
Emotional growth is valuable but life isn’t only internal. Your job, relationships, health, income, support network and environment all shape the opportunities and the extent to which things are you in your control. Everyone is dealt a different set of options and those options aren’t always fair or just.
Instagram often skips this complexity. It makes healing look like a neat before-and-after story. It makes you think success is always in your control. Racism, sexism, classism aren’t things positive thinking can fix.
BUT positivity and optimism are helpful when we see our situation and the tools at our disposal. AND there is always a way to shift s situation you’re in, particularly if you’re struggling.
A more grounded approach
Instead of trying to “fix all your beliefs” or “clear all your trauma,” ask:
Which patterns come from me, and which come from the system I’m in?
What is in my control? What do I wish was in my control? What isn’t at all in my control? What do I wish wasn’t in my control but is? What do I wish wasn’t in my control but is?
Where and how do I need support from others? Where and how do I need to grow?
Emotional work is real work but it’s not the whole story. Agency, strategy, and context matter just as much in my opinion (which is one of the reasons I offer coaching as well as therapy).
Why this matters for you
If you’ve tried to “do the healing” and still feel stuck, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means the Instagram model of mental health & wellbeing is incomplete.
My work combines emotional depth with practical empowerment so you’re not waiting until you’re perfectly healed before you make changes. You act now, with what’s available, and you build capacity as you go. We do this in a gentle and safe way, with lots of compassion.
If you’re curious about how we might work together or whether my sessions could help you then you could book in for an intro call.
I offer complimentary 15-20 minute calls where we can explore your situation and how working together might help.
If you’re a bit curious about how I could help, book in for a complimentary call.
Bex
www.wearedelphi.co
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That’s it for this week.
Keep showing up, keep connecting, learning and discovering! cheering each yourself and those around you on 💛
Bex @ We Are Delphi
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