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Five things I’ve learnt that I’d love others to know
Carl Jung never wrote a tidy list called “Five Rules for a Fulfilled Life.”
Now, I’m no expert on Carl Jung but I read his work. Over time, I’ve found these five themes to be ones that ring true for my own personal journey.
These are the things I’d love everyone around me to know.
1. Fulfilment comes from meaning, not happiness
Jung believed happiness, like pleasure, is unstable. It comes and goes. It can’t be relied on. The majority of products, advertising and the nature of consumerism is to have us to optimise for comfot, “happiness” and ease.
And yet, what sustains us isn’t a mood. Its meaning: the sense that our life is about something, even when it’s difficult. A meaningful life can include suffering. and discomfort If a life is built solely on happiness then it can often collapses the moment suffering appears.
This aligns with what I see in practice: fulfilment isn’t the absence of difficult or uncomfortable stuff, it’s the sense that our pain, our effort, and our choices are in service of something that matters. What matters, of course, is an on going journey.
2. What you avoid will run your life
Jung is most famous for his shadow work which is about getting to know and understand the parts of ourselves we repress, deny, or disown. Even if we think we’ve suppressed them, they operate unconsciously.
Avoided emotions don’t go away. Avoided truths don’t stay quiet.
They surface instead as anxiety, projection, addiction, self-sabotage, depression, or numbness.
Fulfilment requires turning toward what we’d rather not see, not to shame it, but to grow and learn from it. Otherwise, it steers us from the backseat.
3. Responsibility is freeing
Jung believed that psychological maturity meant taking ownership of your inner world. This means moving from blame and defensiveness and explaining away to looking at our own actions, patterns, and behaviour.
You can ask: What’s mine to own? What’s mine to change? What can I do differently?
When everything is externalised, we stay stuck. When we reclaim responsibility for the parts we bring (and understanding what is ours and what isn’t ours is key!) then we create movement.
Paradoxically, this kind of responsibility leads to more freedom.
4. You are here to become yourself, not fit in
Jung called this individuation. The process of becoming a whole, integrated self.
It’s not about achievement or necessarily abut fixing “your flaws”. It’s about becoming more you. Even if that means letting go of who you were praised for being (people pleasers, perfectionists and goodie two shoes, maybe take note!).
This process is ongoing and requires friction: disappointing others, questioning inherited identities, standing apart but fulfilment doesn’t come from approval. It comes from alignment.
5. A meaningful life requires a relationship with suffering
Jung didn’t believe suffering should be eliminated. He believed it had to be related to and interacted with.
When suffering is ignored or bypassed, it stagnates. When it’s met with curiosity, it has more space to transform.
This isn’t a call to glorify pain but more to reflect on where you’re organising your life around avoiding it. Avoidance, in my mind, shrinks our world but engaging gently, slowly and with curiosity (even when we feel a bit scared) can expand it.
If some of this lands for you but you know you want a little help in understanding your blind spots or figuring out who you are then you might want to book in for a complimentary intro call. I have three therapy spots available and one coaching spot available for a February and March start date.
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Bex
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